"Oh, well, we're not going there anymore."
"Really? Just last month you'd only been there 3 weeks and you said, you and Sarah loved it."
"Yeah, well, it turns out we weren't really getting fed there."
"Huh?" uttered Tom, "That's what you said about 2nd Baptist--the church you visited three months ago."
"Yeah, I know," said Nate, "It just seems like the churches around here just don't help us grow spiritually."
"Have you ever thought about going back to the church you went to for two years when you first moved here? I thought you liked that one quite a bit."
"We did, you know, at first. But after being there a few years, no one reached out to us. We hadn't made any friends. And after a while, even the sermons weren't that helpful."
"I thought you said they were the most friendly church in town?" asked Tom.
"Oh, they are. But after you've been there six months, they quit calling. They kinda expect you to start serving, leading, and what not. We just couldn't do anything like that with four kids under twelve, you know?"
"But wasn't there a small group or some Bible studies that were for individuals and couples your age? That seems like a good place to get plugged in."
"Yeah, but they always met on nights we were already committed to field hockey or ballet. The group leaders called every few months or so. They made us feel so guilty, like they didn't understand all the commitments we had, and then they wanted us to do more stuff."
"Maybe the reason you weren't making friends is you were too committed to others things than the various church activities?"
"Yeah, maybe. But if they really cared about us, they would have asked us when we were available and scheduled activities then. We were so sad to leave. We could just tell they didn't care."
"Had you ever considered hosting a Bible study in your home on a night you were available?"
"We would you know, if our kids were a bit older, but it's just not the time in life for something like that. We're looking for other things right now."
"I see," responded Tom scratching his chin, "So, what are you looking for then?"
"I think the same thing everyone wants. We want a church that feels like family, teaches us about God, and has great ministries for both kids and adults."
"I'm surprised no church in the area has at least something close to that."
"Me too," said Nate, "It's really frustrating."
"Have you ever considered that each of these breakups might be about you?"
"What are you saying?"
"Well, let me think. There was your family and 1st Gospel Church. There was your family and 2nd Baptist Church. There was your family and your first church. It seems like the similarity in all these church problems is your family. You're the only common denominator."