But wait, Ahab listens to a prophet, humbles himself, and seeks the LORD (1 Kings 20). Way to go. Oh, wait, he doesn't do all that God commands. Fool.
Ahab tries to get some land, doesn't get it, and goes away sad (1 Kings 21). Then, his pagan wife says, "You're the king; you get what you want." She has the owner killed off and seizes the property. Oh, my, Jezebel.
The Prophet Elijah shows up to rebuke Ahab and Jezebel. Ahab repents, Jezebel remains a stone. Only time is needed for Ahab to turn away again. A final judgment has its day (1 Kings 22).
Who you marry matters. They are "significant others" because they impact your life, soul, and trajectory more than any other human person. Clearly, Ahab's spiritual condition was revealed when he was attracted to a woman like Jezebel. But it's also clear that her influence over time made him even worse than he was.
1 Kings 21:25-26 (There was never anyone like Ahab, who sold himself to do evil in the eyes of the LORD, urged on by Jezebel his wife. 26 He behaved in the vilest manner by going after idols, like the Amorites the LORD drove out before Israel.)
Truly, behind every good man is a better woman. Behind every evil man is an even worse women. And in others homes, it works the opposite.
Your sin is your sin. You are solely responsible. And yet, our spouses play a key role in the direction of our lives. And yes, you will be held responsible for the influence you have on your better half.
Spouses, point each other to the LORD.
Spouses, do not lead your partner into sin.
Spouses, humble yourselves before the LORD and seek His grace.