Tuesday, December 27, 2016

Serial Monogamy?

Dear America,

Words matter; they shape our lives and our culture. Of late, American parlance has allowed citizens to engage in "serial monogamy." In context, the phrase means that human persons are free to engage in any, one "committed" sexual relationship at a time.

So, you can be serially monogamous, as long as, on Tuesday you are in a relationship with Stan, Susie on Wednesday, and back to Stan on Thursday. Simply, determine the relationship and then everything is okay.This is the end of fornication and adultery as we know it; it's just serial monogamy and, now, no one gets hurt (right?).

From what I can tell, the phrase only prohibits multiple sexual partners in the same encounter, and since the culture also accepts "open marriage" (another dubious turn of phrase), it's settled that we've entered a day when monogamy has lost all meaning.

This is another example where America has allowed finite human persons to define reality. Rather than face the potential guilt and shame of being unfaithful sexually (even apart from marriage), we coin a phrase that removes all sense of monogamy to appease our wounded conscience. (Oh, that we'd flee to a forgiving God, a crucified Jesus, and an empowering Spirit for new life.)

Most moral philosophers throughout history have known that the sexual act communicates acceptance, intimacy, and commitment. It's reserved for true monogamy because of it's power (think of the need to contain electricity to conduits or fires to fireplaces). Sexual power unhinged will cause a wake of destruction that only God can know. He has warned us, but is anyone listening?

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. (Hebrews 13:4)

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